Intentional Optimism applied to real life.    

The Hope Filter

Oct 21, 2019

How often do you think about ~ or yet talk about ~ hope? The way it’s used in modern parlance, is more of a “wish.”  Right?  

  • I hope it doesn’t rain.
  • I hope I get those tickets.
  • I hope I win the lottery.

There isn’t any substance behind those statements. No solid ground on which to stand. Nothing worth truly investing any emotional or mental...

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Pulling It All Together ~ Intentionality

Oct 13, 2019

Over the last 5 weeks I’ve been laying out the six pillars of my personal philosophy - Intentional Optimism. This final one pulls it all together - for me, and for you.  

People have commented, for years, that my husband and I are very “intentional” in the way we go about our lives. There’s a reason… Intentionality makes a difference.  


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When I grow up, I want to be...

Oct 07, 2019

I have never considered myself “wise.”  

Smart - sometimes - but wise? Not usually.  There’s wisdom that comes from spending a certain number of years on the planet… being a mother… being married 24 years (25, next May!)... experiencing grief and loss… and I can recognize where I’ve grown.  Overall, though, there are plenty of...

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12 Unsuspected Ways to Tap your Energy and Benefit Others

Sep 29, 2019

As I “bravely” head into the second century of my life (see previous post on courage), one of the things disappearing the fastest is physical energy. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually, however, I seem to have picked up a true second wind.  Perhaps it’s because I’m finally tapping into what I was created to do. Maybe it’s because all my seemingly unrelated...

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Develop Quiet Courage - 12 Steps

Sep 23, 2019

In the early days of my marriage, we were huge “Winnie the Pooh” fans… and by that, I mean we were TIGGER fans. Seriously, what’s not to like? He’s “bouncy, trouncy, flouncy, pouncy, fun, fun, fun, fun, FUN!”

One thing Tigger is not, however, is courageous.

To be fair, no one from the 100 Acre Wood is courageous - that’s part of their charm....

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Why it's taken me so long to "be present," and how you can do it TODAY

Sep 16, 2019

I've lived near Charlottesville, VA for 8 plus years, and haven't visited any of the major attractions - historical sites abound (3 President’s homes), natural wonders are a quick drive away (Blue Ridge Parkway), and I’ve done none of it. I live here, but I’ve not LIVED here. There’s always been something temporary about my circumstances, and I haven't committed to just...

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12 Ways to Cultivate an Optimistic Outlook

Sep 09, 2019

Now that I’ve laid out the characteristics of Intentional Optimism, let’s get practical. Just HOW do you do it?  

Did I just wake up one day and say “yep, today’s the day - I’m Optimistic!” 

HA!      Nope.  

Honestly, this has been a way longer road than I’d like to admit. At my core, yes, these things are very...

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Intentional Optimism - Characteristic #6

Sep 08, 2019

Sixth, an Intentional Optimist is:

Intentional (of course): We know why we do what we do.  Keeping our eyes on the prize, we care for others, planning to meet needs as they appear.  We are future facing, embracing a growth mindset, new experiences and nurturing change in ourselves and others. 

Have you set your intentions? Do you have direction and know where you’re...

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Intentional Optimism - Characteristic #5

Sep 07, 2019

Fifth, an Intentional Optimist is:

Wise: King Solomon said to “get understanding and wisdom at any cost” (Prov. 4:7). We must be willing to have open eyes to see what is really going on, and understand there may be unlimited perspectives from which to view each of life’s circumstances.  We are careful with our words, using them to bring joy and encouragement to others,...

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Intentional Optimism - Characteristic #4

Sep 06, 2019

Fourth, an Intentional Optimist is:

Energetic: Productivity is the name of the game here, not just excitement.  Having an industrious bent allows us to provide for ourselves, our families and others, in ways that empower.  Having a “Life” focus, guiding ourselves and those around us toward things that are regenerative in nature, always producing for the future.


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There are events in life that define our journey. Once they happen, we begin describing everything else as “before X” or “after X”. For me,it was the day my mother died. Suddenly, I became aware of my own limited timeline. The drive to find my voice, purpose and place became urgent. I dove in, head first, and discovered the desire to help myself fueled a greater desire - to help others. Soon, I stopped defining myself in terms  of roles (wife, mother, manager),  but in terms of qualities: curious, determined, happy, adventurous. I've come to understand, that the qualities that make us who we are, are what we must celebrate. We each have a special purpose, unique perspective, and unlimited potential. Better yet, we can both discover and develop them.   

I do this through speaking, training, coaching and writing -  with a focus on helping women grow into the leaders they truly are. Intentional Optimism is my philosophy of life, and includes these five pillars:

          Optimistic - Hopeful, Positive Proactive

          Present - Seeking Wonder, Generous, Kind

          Courageous – Leading Others, Adventurous, Resilient

          Energetic - Industrious, Excitement, Life-focused

          Wise - In Respect, Words and having Understanding

          Intentional - Purposeful, Planning, Growth Mindset

I'm building a global community of women helping women. A place where we foster leadership from every stage or position in life. A place where we celebrate wonder; move forward with hope and openness; share wisdom and encouragement; offer each other a helping hand; ask freely, and share lavishly; and celebrate our differences as avenues of growth and expansion.

Let’s  change our understanding of what it means to work, provide for our families, have financial stability, and be a leader in the community. Life is an adventure - let's live it to the fullest!  

It’s time to laugh at the days to come! - Prov. 31:25

Won’t you join me on the journey?